There are all kinds of personality tests out there that tell you about yourself and what your basic need is…. the need for affection, the need to feel safe, the need to be in charge, the need for perfection and on it goes.
I have been dealing with a situation for a while that is causing me so much anxiety, and I find myself having a really stinky attitude about it. Yes, it’s true.
I am typically a positive, upbeat person. I care about other people and want to make a difference. I don’t have the “everyone look at me” need. So, why is this situation bothering me to the point of causing health problems? How is it that I can be joyful and content in every other area of my life? The answer just occurred to me….. My basic need is to be VALUED and APPRECIATED. It always has been. It’s not in a selfish way. I tend to be hard on myself and feel like I usually fall short of my own expectations.
So, I need to know that you think that what I do matters…
That I make a positive difference in this world…..
Value me and and tell me what I do is important and I will do my best to move mountains for you.
Please give me a chance to thrive instead of forcing me to merely survive.
What is your basic need? Think about it. Maybe you can find some understanding about a situation you are currently in.
What are the basic needs of your family members? Take a little time to stop and make sure that needs are being met and the communication is flowing. You may just have an A-ha moment.